Reflection


 

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Less than a week ago I was contemplating…..Contemplating my father’s reaction upon seeing his special delivery.  That of his three grown daughters falling from the sky to land on the front of his stoop, surprising him at his home in Arizona.  Two coming from the state of Texas, one from St. Louis, Missouri.

After arriving by plane and renting a car, we parked a few feet away to slither to the front of his house like a local rattle snake, albeit one without any venom.  Giggling like school girls we were nervous to knock on his massive wooden door nearly six inches thick.  “You do it,” my middle sister said.  “No, you,” I responded, jiggling the skinny of her arm in gleeful anticipation.  Finally, our youngest sister pushed both of us out of the way, rolling sapphire eyes in mock disgust.  “Tap, tap, tap,” her knuckles loudly rapped.

Today, I’m reflecting……Reflecting upon every moment spent with my father.  The whole of each second is stuffed inside denim pockets or hidden within silken folds of wrinkled shirtsleeves waiting to be unpacked.  Before I shake them out I must push them deep to the far corners of my mind, lest they forever be lost.  Every joke and laugh, smile and tilt of his head, hug, silly story told, family minute and clink of our glasses to cheer our past.  This I must remember for all my future it must last.

My father was totally surprised when he opened the door, nearly falling to his knees with a look of shock and joy.  My sisters and I sat with Dad on a western sofa while he finished his curly chicken noodle soup to tell him of our plans for the next few days.  It was the first time he did not balk at our staying in a hotel.  Truth be told, I think he was a bit relieved since he was recuperating from Vertigo.  He needed to rest, after all.

Around a table of square that evening, girls with giggles shared wine of liquid red from bubbled glasses clear.  Later, in the shadows of a stark hotel room, whispered voices wafted over down comforters, reminiscing of long ago youth.  Stories of high school days, cheerleading, old boyfriends with shoulder length hair and parties where record players blared.  Mind photos of mini-skirts, bell bottom pants, first cars and learning lines in plays.

The next day my two younger brothers joined us.  It was the first time we were all together in nearly four years.  There were smiles and laughter with a little bit of teasing now and again for old time’s sake.  We nibbled on cubes of cheese like scampering mice while snapping pictures with camera phones.  Later, under twinkling stars in the blackest sky we sang Karaoke songs to the top of our lungs.   Eyes glowed fluorescent green in the luster of a yellow moon, and if one looked close enough, scraggly coyotes scattered every which way.

On our last day together, we all shared a grand lunch followed by visiting relatives while enjoying the desert sun.  We prayed over my aunt’s struggling fruit trees, and shared a delicious pink grapefruit, freshly picked.  My youngest sister, who recently passed her Personal Training certification gave my father a lesson in Yoga, much to all of our delight!  A picture of him in the CHI position is my very favorite, one I shall treasure always.

In reflecting upon my trip to Arizona, I had the greatest time with my sisters, my brothers and of course, my father too.  It seems like weeks were packed into a small duffel of four days.  The CHI picture is my fondest reflection of my father.  His love of life, all people and especially family.   I do not take my time with him for granted.  Not one minute nor a second on the clock.  Every moment that I think of him is a reflection, a mirror on the wall, a ticking watch wrapped around my wrist forever to remind me.

Reflection……

 

 

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66 thoughts on “Reflection

  1. What a lovely surprise for your father, Kim! Wow! You are such a nice and loving family. Your Dad looks so wonderful and glad he recuperated from Vertigo. You and your sisters look like sisters! I wish I had some! ha ha! I have two brothers and your brothers look so warm and friendly, too. I liked how you carefully ‘unwrapped’ the story, it is truly a sweet gift you gave him and US! I cherished all the words you used to describe this special time together. I am glad you did this, it is so meaningful and memorable, too!

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    • Not often do the five of us ‘kids’ get together so this was a real treat for my dad! Thank you for such kind comments. Yes, I am so lucky to have sisters (and brothers) to share life with…the older we get the more we appreciate each other. Luckily, my father was feeling much, much better by the last day of our visit-the day of his “Yoga” lesson. Such a sense of humor he has! 🙂

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    • Oh, Dan, we had a wonderful time! Don’t have any idea when we’ll all be together again, so I’m cherishing these memories! Thanks for being with me. Blessings to you. 🙂

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  2. It sounds like a magical time, a time of glorious memories that will never fade. A joy to be with your father, your sisters and two brothers as well. Thank you for letting us share it with you.
    xxx Massive Hugs xxx

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    • David, my special love and thanks for reading and commenting on such a rare occasion for me. Could not help but share my heart with all who may read my post. Blessings to you.

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  3. What a precious time. I love the photos of your Dad but even more so his willingness to stretch beyond his comfort zone and try something new. Quite a few years ago now, we received a call from Dad’s uncle to say he was in the paper. When we checked it out, there was a full page photo of him wearing his trademark red jumper with his arms raised in the air at Mass….a true pentecostal. This came as quite a surprise to us as he wasn’t an emotionally demonstrative person. Certainly, not the hugging type and used to shake hands all round. It’s great that person constantly surprise us like this and teach us that we’re never too old to learn new tricks.
    xx Rowena

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    • Yes, Rowena, this “Chi” pose was such a surprise to me, as were all the Yoga poses. He will be 82 this year after all! So much fun to watch him with the sun shining on his face while he takes it all in! Blessings.

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      • That is just fabulous. My favourite photo of my mother shows her swinging a hoola hoop when we were visiting my grandfather in his secure Alzheimer’s facility. I think our son was about 2 at the time and she was doing it to entertainhim and the same bunch of photos show our daughter pulling herself up to stand on the side of Papa’s wheelchair and she would have been about 10 months. One of those schadenfreude moments seeing my Mum come out of her shell and my grandfather being stuck in his. That said, visits from the kids brought him out again. It was so touching. We could understand quite what was going on but we treasured the moments…like you are now. To put you in the picture re my mum, she’s fairly conservative and not the type who likes to stand out in a crowd.

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      • How I love the visualization of your dear mother in the throws of the hoopla hoop, hoping to get a smile or laugh from your “Papa.” And, the picture of your baby daughter-just precious! Thank you so much for sharing. Love to you, Roweena.

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      • Thanks Kim. It really was terribly sad with my grandfather because he even slept through Santa’s visit but when we turned up with the kids after Christmas, it was like that movie Awakenings where those stone like people came back to life again. Mister has a toy laptop and it had a mouse on it that looked like a mouse and there was the 3 year old teaching the 93 year old who really loathed technology how to use his laptop. The staff were almost leaping out of their skin and filming him. It was quite a miracle.

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      • The circle of life meant to be, Roweena. What a touching seen that must have been. Yes, sad, as you say, but when the “light” begins to flicker the flame burns in our hearts forevermore. Blessings.

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  4. oh my – your dad does the downward dog! yeah baby – what a spunky guy still – and Kim – this was beautiful – sound alike the best family time – and a dose of much needed love and friendship for all – and you told it with such nice flow. 🙂 ❤

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    • “The Downward Dog!” Yes, my sister was so impressed! Well, we all were…:) So much fun to watch him try all of things for ‘our’ benefit, I’m sure!!! Thank you so much for being here and commenting as always. Love to you. 🙂

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      • thanks for the love (yet again) and this post was so fun. I have been missing my mom and it is almost time for me to see her – and isn;t it sad that we cannot be them more – I mean – it is such gift that they are still round – and I want to see them way more!!! ❤ ❤

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    • Yes, Tess, we are too. Two in Texas, two in Arizona (plus my father) with me living in St. Louis. The last time we were all together was at my mother’s memorial service which definitely was not a happy occasion. This indeed, was special for all of us. Blessings to you, Tess, with many thanks for reading.

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    • A time none of us shall soon forget! My father will be 82 this year so don’t take any of it for granted. Thank you so much for visiting my blog and reading my post. Very much appreciated!

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  5. A truly delightful get-together around the Arizona family table, Kim… One of your brothers and u take after your dad. Your post really danced to ‘country homes, take me home…’ Regards… Raj.

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  6. A beautiful post, a family reunion gathered around your father, old memorys and fun and laughter.
    A very special occasion which I am sure will be treasured in the family history.
    Your father looks like he has accepted the Chi religion completely

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  7. Oh how wonderful to share in your reunion with your Dad Kim.. and what an amazing man he looks too.. And your family photo is I am sure one to be cherished.. Along with all those fun packed 4 days..
    Its lovely when all the family can get together as One again.. And what a beautiful surprise you all sprung on him.. .. Loved reading.. xxx Hugs your way..

    I have so enjoyed my time with you this afternoon Kim.. I felt part and parcel of your warm family hub.. Many thanks dear friend for sharing.
    Love and Blessings dear Kim..
    Sue ❤

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